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How do you think a relationship, like the high school relationships you described, can still be glorifying to God and beneficial to the growth both individuals in the long run? If not marriage, what's the purpose?
Anonymous

To be quite honest, it doesn’t have too much power over the individuals, at least it shouldn’t. As I stated before, most teenage relationships do not last; therefore, as youngsters still learning, we shouldn’t invest too much into the relationship. These relationships are for two things: 1) getting closer to someone you know you enjoy and 2) learning about how a functional relationship works. I know I like Jill. I want to know more about her, I want to see her more often, and I want her to know that I like her. So I asked her to be in a relationship with me. My intentions were made clear, and hers were too, as she wanted to be my girlfriend. Now, we hang out more, we talk more, and we enjoy each other more. I’m also learning how I should be behaving in a healthy relationship. I’m gaining experience. Hopefully, with whomever God has planned for me, if anyone, I will be able to take this experience into a marriage.

As for glorifying God, I believe the majority of glorifying God remains in our individual lives. The less one invests into a relationship, the less one gets out of a relationship. As we don’t consider this relationship ridiculously serious, important, or necessary, we treat it less like a glorifying marriage and more like a friendship, where the two individuals both spend the majority of their glorifying God on their own. Of course, there still is some investment in the relationship, and therefore, there is some glorification of God together. Much of this will come from imitating a Godly relationship and following the roles of man and woman. Further, attending church together can be part of this, though this isn’t necessary. Most importantly, the relationship as a whole must be an example of the grace of God. The relationship must be pointedly different than others: nothing sexual, no terrible angry fighting, no drugs, no over-dependence on one another. Just keep it simple. Follow the way that God has set up man and woman to work together. Be open about your faiths, and don’t change the spiritual life you had before the relationship during the relationship. 

An image explanantion: Don’t hold hands and look into each others eyes; hold hands and look into God’s eyes. This is the godly relationship. 

Thank you for asking. :) Keep on asking, too! 

May your day be bright and productive.

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