could you give me your opinion of sex before marriage? if you are waiting, why? and if not, why not?

Sexual activity outside of marriage is sin. That much is overwhelmingly clear in the Bible.

Besides being condemned, it just makes sense. Abstaining from sex and sexual activity until marriage is glorious and ideal. It is a sign not just of intimacy and love, but of commitment. Sex is a gift from God, but it is precious. Sex should be enjoyed in the covenant between man and woman before God only. And then it should be enjoyed often. :)

Having repented of my past sexual immorality, I intend to wait until marriage to have sex with my future wife.

Any righteous, repentant believer in Christ will do the same.

Drink water from your own cistern,
    running water from your own well.
Should your springs overflow in the streets,
    your streams of water in the public squares?
Let them be yours alone,
    never to be shared with strangers.
May your fountain be blessed,
    and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
A loving doe, a graceful deer—
    may her breasts satisfy you always,
    may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife?
    Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?" -Proverbs 5:15-20

what is your view on Lordship salvation?

Lordship Salvation tends to accurately correspond to reality. Faith, of course, without deeds is dead (James 2:26). But I would not say that Lordship Salvation is true, and indeed I do not affirm it. Salvation is by faith alone (Ephesians 2:8-9).

Lordship Salvation sounds quite like Visible Saint-ism. The Puritans believed that those who would be saved would physically show that by their actions, through miracles and blessings and generosity; the saved would be visible saints. Clearly that’s not true.

The line between faith and works is difficult to pin point, but I trust that God matures each believer in his or her works in His perfect time. In the end, faith is the basis of salvation. And though faith without works is dead, works are the basis of spiritual growth and maturity, not salvation. They are a result of accepting Jesus Christ as Lord, not a requirement.

Be the most righteous Christ follower you can be and encourage others to do the same. Do not desire to remain in a life of sin, but desire to enter a life of joy and love and righteousness (2 Peter 1:5-8). You’ll have nothing to worry about.

By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer?" -Romans 6:2

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” -2 Corinthians 5:17

Hello, you've said that you used to be gay, and that now you straight it seems . You said that your homosexual ways have damaged you, and that by making a choice in your heart you have now changed. and that by caring about the truth of god and by living righteously you naturally moved away from your homosexual ways. I and many other gay christians would really appreciate it if you would elaborate on how you have found this freedom of homosexuality. feel free to go on a rant, I care about detail.

Sadly I used up all the available characters on the last ask. I wanted to clarify a few things about my question. I understand that there may be some painful connections to this, if that is so then don’t feel obligated to answer, I understand completely just say something so I know you saw the question. I really want to understand the process you went through, I know that everyone will deal with this in their own way, but possibly some of us could try to follow and make some progress.

Unfortunately, I cannot be of much service. In the past on my blog, I have referred to homosexual actions and lusts of my distant past, but I have never felt that I was homosexual, not in a complete or deep sense. At heart, even in those moments, I wasn’t homosexual.  I would love to help you as much as possible, and if I can do that, wonderful! But there isn’t too much of a story.

The perversions of my youth were not contained to homosexuality or the like. I struggled with other sexual sin at different periods. I do not wish to overplay the overall minor homosexual tones of my past. I certainly won’t underplay them, but there simply wasn’t much. As I slowly matured and found the truth, I never turned to those things again. I chose to leave those perversions, like the other, for a more righteous way of life, that for which I was called.

I know at least two other lovely Christian bloggers that can be of a better service than I in this area. If they don’t mind, I would love to direct you to them.

All I can say is continue seeking the glory of the Lord, His love, His wisdom, His power. He simply is the only way to righteousness.

I really appreciate the enthusiasm and courtesy with which you sought my reply. God bless you for that, and bless God in return. Have a lovely evening.

But who can discern their own errors?
    Forgive my hidden faults.
Keep your servant also from willful sins;
    may they not rule over me.
Then I will be blameless,
    innocent of great transgression.

May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart
    be pleasing in your sight,
    Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." -Psalm 19:12-14

I have a very close friend is is struggling with a pornography addiction. It is getting to the point to where he is wanting to act upon the things he is seeing with a person of interest to him. He is a true dedicated Christian as well. He wants help, but doesn't want to ask his parents for help because he's afraid of their reaction. How can I help my friend escape this bondage of addiction and lust before more unwise decisions are made because of it?

First, I want to thank you for being such a good friend and strong sibling in Christ for him. Keep blessing God and may He bless you too.

Second, I hope you are the same gender as your friend. It is a difficult and risky thing for a woman to help a man out of lust issues. Not only is it hard to accomplish, but I’m just not sure it is your place if you are a girl. I say that humbly. And I certainly don’t believe you can’t help him or that it is necessarily a bad thing. But it simply might not be your place to help him and perhaps you need to get with one of his male friends or mentors. However, for the rest of the ask, I’m going to assume that you are in an ideal situation to help him and are a probably a male. If not, my bad! :)

I’ve got three major tips and then a few really good programs at the end.

1. Accountability. Either help him find or be an accountability partner to him. Accountability is wonderful and powerful, but you have to be strict with it. This will help him greatly because he needs something outside of himself. Sometimes we need that little push.

2. Replacement. Smokers are told not to go cold turkey but rather to replace it with something. Quitting something and replacing it with nothing leaves a void and proves almost always ineffective (though it can work!). And even if it does work, sometimes it is replaced by something else unhealthy. Ultimately, he must find something else to do when he feels the urge to either watch pornography or do something sexual with his partner. He can do push-ups, he can run, he can call his grandma. Pick something and make it consistent. Usually a physical activity is very helpful or calling a family member.

3. Be with other people. These urges may come at any time, but they can only be acted on when alone or with his partner alone. When the urge comes, urge him to go downtown to the coffee shop or go to Wal-Mart or something, anything. Have a place he can go, by himself, with his partner, whatever. Another excuse to be with family.

The point is, don’t give it an inch. Make war on sin. Learn to hate your sin and Love God. And these minor changes will help in every way.

Lastly, there are a few wonderful programs to help him.

The first is truly awesome and FREE. Booyah, right? It’s a 60 day program and they assign you a personal mentor to help you fight all impurity in your life. Everyone should do this. It’s found at

The second is awesome as well. It is part of my own coming to Christ. It a 30 day program to break pornography addiction specifically. It is found at Sadly, this one is not free. But parts of it are free.

I really hope I have helped you. I apologize for the severe lateness of my reply. Please forgive me. I love you and your friend! Have a lovely day! Go Christ!

He rescued me from my powerful enemy,
    from my foes, who were too strong for me.
They confronted me in the day of my disaster,
    but the Lord was my support…
I pursued my enemies and overtook them;
    I did not turn back till they were destroyed.
 I crushed them so that they could not rise…

                                                -Psalm 18:17-18;37-38a

A Note on the Unforgivable Sin

If you commit the unforgivable sin (Mark 3:28-29), you will not be forgiven, never in spite of your desire to be right with God, but because you have no desire to be right with God. Repenting of sin whatever precludes the commission of blasphemy against the Holy Spirit (cf. 1 John 1:9). If you have committed the unforgivable sin, it’s because you don’t want to be in right relationship with God in the first place. That is the sin itself.

If you’re upset about possibly committing the unforgivable sin because you want to honor God, you’ve already defeated your own inhibition. Rise. You can be secure in God’s mercy and strength.

Why did God send Jesus to die for our sins to be forgiven, as opposed to annulment of sins directly by God?

Because God is a just God and cannot tolerate sin. It is a problem that must be dealt with before we can be in His perfect presence. But God is also a loving God and cannot tolerate not having us either. Which is we He sent Jesus.

Annulment of sins directly by God? That’s exactly what He did; Jesus is God Himself. Someone had to pay for our evil; that is how justice works. God loved us so much that He took the punishment Himself. And He’s the only sacrifice holy enough to take the punishment.

Pretty awesome, right? 

People always ask how close they can get to sin, instead of how close they can get to Jesus.
Mark Driscoll
You absolutely CANNOT take something that is a sin to God and try to transform into something good. There is NO good in sin, for the WAGES OF SIN IS DEATH. If that alone doesn’t worry you, then perhaps nothing will.


Neanderthals buried their dead and may have worn jewelry. Homo erectus seems to have divvied up jobs to prepare food and sailed the high seas. Even with little to go on, we can be fairly certain the Denisovans wore jewelry, and the much-maligned “hobbits” left tools useful for dicing up lunch….

Very interesting!

I think you're leading a very sad life with that hate in your heart. I'm sure you believe you aren't, but it's sad, you are. You say you had homosexual tendencies,or, "sin in your heart." For a religion which you believe teaches you to love, it's ludicrous. And furthermore, the bible does not say homosexual tendencies were a sin, it says the ACT is.

I am sorry that I have led you think that my beliefs are even slightly shameful or sad. As you acknowledged, that is not how I see it, but regardless, I’d like others to have the same understanding that I have. I believe it’s the truth, and I’m hard to convince. 

I will be the first to admit that I struggle with hating. We all do. That’s just obvious. But, in all honesty, hating homosexuals is something I really really do not struggle with. Seriously. There is no question in my mind about that. What reason do I have to hate them? I just don’t see any. So, I don’t think it’s legitimate to say that I have hate in my heart. I mean, you’ve concluded that I have a sad life and a hateful heart after looking at a few posts of mine on the internet. A bit axiomatic.

And actually, it’s very loving to call homosexuality a sin. It’s the truth in my eyes. If I call it something it’s not, that’s not just being untrue to myself and to my beliefs, but to my God. And I don’t believe homosexuality is love. That’s not to say love can’t exist somewhere in homosexual relationships, but homosexuality itself cannot be love. 

And actually, I’m afraid I must correct you on your assertion about the Bible. Jesus teaches that lust itself is equivalent to acting on that lust; where the mind goes, so goes the body, and eventually the soul. Lustful thoughts are sinful in themselves and require no action upon them for them to be ‘wrong’ or sinful. The same goes for wishing death on your neighbor, but not acting on it. I can’t believe that murderous thoughts could ever be thought righteous, even if they weren’t acted on. I think the sinful thought accounts for itself. We’re called to have great thoughts. Therefore, the Bible does claim immoral tendencies a sin, not just the act. 

Lastly, my intention with the word ‘tendencies’ was not simply immoral thoughts, or unacted upon desires. In ways I care not to go into, I acted on them many times. Depending how far back you’ve gone on my blog, you may know that I have not always been a Christian. Only recently, about a year ago, did I truly devote my life to God. 

At any rate, I hope you have a blessed day, Evie (if I may call you that). Thank you for your message.